Can we think about an “Unwritten Treaty” today? Think of it as an agreement that brings peace between people. Think of it as a safeguard to fall back on when there is tension in the air and people don’t see eye to eye about something.
Life in the Church is not perfect. There are disagreements and sometimes people say hurtful things to one another. This stuff happens. What is most important is how we deal with it.
Jesus says some grace-filled words in Matthew 18:15, “if another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one.”
Key to Jesus’ words are two ideas that I want to leave with you to ponder. First, the importance of talking directly to the person who has offended you. The easy way out is to talk to someone else about the one who hurt you. Let me ask you: does that do any good? and does that help solve the problem? Second, what is most important is not being right or winning the argument – it is mending the relationship.